I’ve said before that partner priority relationships is where I’m at. Now I know it’s not always that black and white and some men really do have their shit together and can balance their lives, but that’s the exception to the rule. They are also more affectionate from what I’ve experienced. That’s when I decided that this probably isn’t for me. I don’t hate kids, I love kids, I just don’t want to deal that’s all. I do date men with kids over 18 though, they don’t really need their parents as much. I rarely go there so don’t ask and please don’t get offended.
Dating men with kids takes someone very selfless and someone who is good at compromising her precious partner time. So, in order to avoid those problems, dating men with kids is something I don’t do. They are usually more mature and responsible and have their shit together because they have to. There are some amazing men out there with some great kids I’m sure of it. What happens is that inevitably I get put aside for one reason or another, all good reasons. I want to be able to be with my partner when it feels right. But, I would rather limit my choices than settle for something that I know won’t make me happy. Someone else’s kids shouldn’t be my responsibility. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with it, I’m just saying it’s not my first choice. We like what we like and it’s time to be proud of who we are and what we want.
Activity groups and volunteer time seems to do wonders for most people. I don't know your local market all too well but depending upon your age, women might marry off there early (pre-25) or have babies quite early and you could see a lot of single moms.
I just got to be able to get to these meetups when they're happening. It seems most of these dating sites are just for fun and shouldn't really be taken seriously. I don't know your local market all too well but depending upon your age, women might marry off there early (pre-25) or have babies quite early and you could see a lot of single moms. Some smaller markets might have women with more reasonable expectations due to lack of choices.
Women who date a divorced or widowed dad must give serious consideration to every aspect of the relationship and how it would affect everyone concerned.
Now of course there are many single men who hold out of their Golden Pegasus with no kids, but these guys aren’t exactly successful when it comes to sealing the deal.
Baggage has a lot more faces than merely having children with another man, and they find out harshly that the childless woman may be a big baby herself, looking for a “daddy” to buy her things.
So men accept the fact that dating women of a certain age will result in children being almost a certainty, so they either date 19 yr old girls, or own up to the reality that their dating prospects will come with a child.
Among other things, find out whether you are comfortable sharing your man’s time with his children, having his ex-wife in a future life with him and whether you are comfortable with the state of the relationship now. Don’t see him too often, meet his children too soon, get intimate right away or move in together.
This will give you enough time and space to get to know the man and assess any potential problems, such as his financial status, his ex-wife or partner and his emotional availability.