If you are unsure, at least wait until you are sure of that person's character.A good question to ask yourself when contemplating a possible date is to ask yourself if the person lives gospel standards.After everything I have been through there is too much at stake to make stupid mistakes. It turns out that many singles in the church struggle with remaining chaste. The guideline to wait to date is inspired counsel from Latter-day prophets. Hazards exist if you date before you are emotionally and mentally able to deal with the physical feelings that come from serious relationships.When choosing someone to date, look for and date only those people who have high moral standards.Now that I am single at this point in my life, and I am faced with dating again, I find it important to define my standards for dating. To think that it could never happen to you is a major error of gigantic proportions. It can happen to you, to Bishops, to stake Presidents or anyone who places themselves in such a position. I remember clearly a visiting general authority counseling the bishops in my stake to never interview a woman in the ward alone in the building, and to not give women or young ladies rides somewhere alone. If you have good parents, they may have similar or other rules like these.This came to my attention when a man I was dating asked me to come to his house to watch a movie…alone. I wasn’t sure why but after thinking about it for a while I remembered these dating rules that I used to teach to the youth when I was an Early Morning Seminary Teacher for the church. They may limit the number of dates you have in a month, or require that you go out with a variety of partners rather than not just one.
So to any of my former students, I want you to know that I am dedicated to practicing what I preach and will abide by the same rules I taught all of them so many years ago… To fail to understand that is to have fallen prey to one of Satan’s biggest lies. Had David turned away his head and not invited Bathsheba to his home, he likely would be exalted today. When young, your motives should be social skills, friendships and wholesome fun.Developing social and relationship skills can be done in many different environments, including your family, roommates, mission companionships and more. In brief, your dating activities should evolve like this: Getting acquainted is often easier and less stressful in groups.Sure enough, rule #7, Never go into the house or apartment of the opposite sex alone. It turns out that he had other things on his mind, because I never heard from him again, which is fine with me! But, I have never talked to a young person yet who has committed a moral transgression of ANY kind who has not broken several of these rules.I kind of feel like these rules will pull the weeds out of the dating field for me and help me to eliminate potential problems right at the beginning. Do not lie down by each other or on top of each other. Remember, breaking these rules interferes with Celestial Dating and falling in love. things that have contributed to many a Celestial candidate falling to a lower kingdom.